The Blue Rose
Mission: Healing Through Art
Affects of Abusive relationships on children
physical abuse of children is about 40% - 70%
heightened risk for child sexual abuse
exposing children to domestic violence
rigid or inappropriate expectations
enlisting children as spies
talking bad about the other parent to children
filing child abuse reports
withholding child support
replacing the other parent
overestimates their skills as parents
overstates their relationship with their children
There are three important aspects of parenting:
How you treat your children
How you threat the other parent of your children
How you treat yourself
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words severely hurt me
You say you love me but you hit me.
The same eyes that you looked into
are now black and blue.
When you were hitting me
I looked at you in your eyes,
you were so angry
because I caught you in more lies.
You lied and cheated on me;
what am I worth if there is infidelity?
I told you how I felt;
one blow to my face was what I was dealt.
You got upset at me when I tried to fight back;
you would would it me harder - flashbacks.
Memories, every song that plays on the radio
reminds me of you.
Domestic violence hurts everyone!.
intimidation and threats
lies and cheating
jealousy and isolation
forced or coerced sex
economic control and stealing
cultural and identity abuse
Myths about domestic violence:
domestic violence is not a problem in my community.
domestic violence only happens to poor women and colored women.
some people deserve to be hit
alcohol, drug abuse, stress and mental illness cause domestic violence
domestic violence is a personal problem between a husband and wife
if it were that bad she would just leave
a husband cannot rape his wife
Domestic Violence is any kind of behavior; verbal, emotional and/or physical
that one person in a relationship uses to gain power and control over another.
It can happen in any relationship;
dating, partner, glbtq relationship,
caregiver, roommate or family member.