The Blue Rose

Mission:  Healing Through Art 

  • Goal:  Empowering victims to break the silence and find their voice

Affects of Abusive relationships on children

physical abuse of children is about 40% - 70%
heightened risk for child sexual abuse
exposing children to domestic violence

psychological abuse:

rigid or inappropriate expectations
verbal abuse
inconsistent contact/attention
favoritism
emotionality
enlisting children as spies
talking bad about the other parent to children

Undermining mother:

undermining rules/limits
criticizing 
manipulating visits
filing child abuse reports
legal harassment 
withholding child support
replacing the other parent
overestimates their skills as parents
overstates their relationship with their children

There are three important aspects of parenting:

How you treat your children
How you threat the other parent of your children
How you treat yourself 

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words severely hurt me

Emotional Abuse

  • constant belittling, shaming and humiliating
  • calling names and making negative comparison to others
  • telling a child he/she is "no good" "worthless" "bad" or " a mistake"
  • frequent yelling, threatening or bullying
  • ignoring or rejecting "the silent treatment" a child as punishment
  • limited physical contact with the child - no hugs kisses or other signs of affection
  • exposing the child to violence or the abuse of others


I love u, I hate u
by Colleen Williams

You say you love me but you hit me.

The same eyes that you looked into 

are now black and blue.

When you were hitting me

I looked at you in your eyes,

you were so angry

because I caught you in more lies.

You lied and cheated on me;

what am I worth if there is infidelity?

I told you how I felt;

one blow to my face was what I was dealt.

You got upset at me when I tried to fight back;

you would would it me harder - flashbacks.

Memories, every song that plays on the radio

reminds me of you. 

Domestic violence hurts everyone!.


intimidation and threats

lies and cheating

jealousy and isolation

forced or coerced sex

economic control and stealing

cultural and identity abuse​

                                  Myths about domestic violence:
              domestic violence is not a problem in my community.
              domestic violence only happens to poor women and colored women.
              some people deserve to be hit
              alcohol, drug abuse, stress and mental illness cause domestic violence
              domestic violence is a personal problem between a husband and wife
              if it were that bad she would just leave
              a husband cannot rape his wife

         

Domestic Violence is any kind of behavior; verbal, emotional and/or physical

that one person in a â€‹relationship uses to gain power and control over another.

It can happen in any relationship;

                                 dating, partner, glbtq relationship,

                                 caregiver, roommate or family member.