The Blue Rose

Mission:  Healing Through Art 

  • Goal:  Empowering victims to break the silence and find their voice

It is when you get away from the abuse you need to cope, heal and live

You have already survived

Nothing stays buried it all comes up one way or another

PTSD is not a sign of weakness

Some ways of coping are not always positive

Types of treatment:

  • trauma focused cognitive-behavioral therapy
  • family therapy
  • medication
  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

 

In treatment you will:

  • explore your thoughts and feelings about the trauma
  • work through feelings of guilt, self-blame and mistrust
  • learn how to cope with and control intrusive memories
  • address problems PTSD has caused in your life and relationship

Self-help tips:

Reach out to others for support

  • join a PTSD, Domestic Violence or Sexual abuse support group
  • Do not rely on family and friends to have the answers, they understand the cycles less than you

Avoid drugs and alcohol

​​Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

1-800-662-4357



American Society of Addiction Medicine



Change your sense of helplessness

  • use your strength and coping skills

Spend time in nature

  • peace and relaxation

Use various forms of art for healing

  • journaling
  • poetry
  • singing and dancing 

 some ways the mind and body copes with Trauma during and after the abuse

Avoidance: They will just ignore or avoid it

Addiction: eating disorders, gambling, drugs, alcohol, stealing

Compliance:
“People Pleasers” avoid conflict by giving into everyone around them

Dissociation:
Escaping mentally while the abuse is happening.  The body and mind seem to separate. “Out of body” “spacing out”

Denial:
denying the reality of the abuse “it didn’t really happen” or minimizing the pain “it wasn’t that bad” It is a way to keep the abuse a secret from themselves. 
Although the memory of the assault may be blocked out the feelings of the assault are not easily forgotten

Difficulty having sex

Distorted reaction to the world:
distrustful, suspicious, paranoid, afraid of being alone, fear of conflict, sense of abandonment, worry too much about what others think, obsesses over the small details.

​Exaggerated Fight/Flight response:
abuse victims develop an over active fight/flight response. They are so prepared for something traumatic to happen that they overreact to everyday stressors or conflict.  
Overreacts – yelling, screaming, fighting, loss of temper    
Under reacts – motionless, having panic attacks, abandoning a conversation at the
first sign of conflict.
Physical reactions - Their body is telling them a small problem is a very big problem 


Forgetting:
temporarily forget the abuse even happened

Isolation from others:
bouncing from on relationship into another

Impulsiveness:
making spur of the moment decisions.  
​  Can lead to promiscuity.

Lying:
compulsive liars especially if they were required to lie about the abuse during their childhood.

Low Self-Esteem:
worrying a lot about what other people think. “Taking it very personally”

Manipulations
: sometimes attempt to manipulate or control those around them

Minimizing:
makes the abuse less real. Less serious than it was.

​Nightmares or lack of sleep:
some people become so good at controlling their emotions when they are awake that they suffer from them coming out at night.

Rationalizing:
the victim intellectualizes or rationalizes the abuse “it wasn’t so bad”

Splitting:
a person is seen as either 100% good or 100% bad.

Super alertness/ high alert:
“hyper vigilant” all the time, waiting for something bad to happen. “Fight” or “flight” is always going.

Self-Harm/Self destructive behavior "cutting":
the victim may not be trying to hurt themselves but is looking for physical release from the pent up emotional baggage.

Suicide
: when all others fail and the victim sees no hope

​Work-a-holic:
always busy so not to have to deal with negative feelings.