The Blue Rose
Mission: Healing Through Art
Goal: is to educate, entertain, empower and encourage you to break the silence and find your voice
It is when you get away from the abuse you need to cope, heal and live
You have already survived
Nothing stays buried it all comes up one way or another
PTSD is not a sign of weakness
Some ways of coping are not always positive
Types of treatment:
In treatment you will:
Reach out to others for support
Avoid drugs and alcohol
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
Change your sense of helplessness
Spend time in nature
Use various forms of art for healing
some ways the mind and body copes with Trauma during and after the abuse
Avoidance: They will just ignore or avoid it
Addiction: eating disorders, gambling, drugs, alcohol, stealing
Compliance: “People Pleasers” avoid conflict by giving into everyone around them
Dissociation: Escaping mentally while the abuse is happening. The body and mind seem to separate. “Out of body” “spacing out”
Denial: denying the reality of the abuse “it didn’t really happen” or minimizing the pain “it wasn’t that bad” It is a way to keep the abuse a secret from themselves.
Although the memory of the assault may be blocked out the feelings of the assault are not easily forgotten
Difficulty having sex
Distorted reaction to the world: distrustful, suspicious, paranoid, afraid of being alone, fear of conflict, sense of abandonment, worry too much about what others think, obsesses over the small details.
Exaggerated Fight/Flight response: abuse victims develop an over active fight/flight response. They are so prepared for something traumatic to happen that they overreact to everyday stressors or conflict.
Overreacts – yelling, screaming, fighting, loss of temper
Under reacts – motionless, having panic attacks, abandoning a conversation at the
first sign of conflict.
Physical reactions - Their body is telling them a small problem is a very big problem
Forgetting: temporarily forget the abuse even happened
Isolation from others: bouncing from on relationship into another
Impulsiveness: making spur of the moment decisions.
Can lead to promiscuity.
Lying: compulsive liars especially if they were required to lie about the abuse during their childhood.
Low Self-Esteem: worrying a lot about what other people think. “Taking it very personally”
Manipulations: sometimes attempt to manipulate or control those around them
Minimizing: makes the abuse less real. Less serious than it was.
Nightmares or lack of sleep: some people become so good at controlling their emotions when they are awake that they suffer from them coming out at night.
Rationalizing: the victim intellectualizes or rationalizes the abuse “it wasn’t so bad”
Splitting: a person is seen as either 100% good or 100% bad.
Super alertness/ high alert: “hyper vigilant” all the time, waiting for something bad to happen. “Fight” or “flight” is always going.
Self-Harm/Self destructive behavior "cutting": the victim may not be trying to hurt themselves but is looking for physical release from the pent up emotional baggage.
Suicide: when all others fail and the victim sees no hope
Work-a-holic: always busy so not to have to deal with negative feelings.